Comments on: My Father’s Daughter http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 20:01:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Trish @ Another Piece of the Puzzle http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16616 Trish @ Another Piece of the Puzzle Sun, 15 Jun 2008 22:45:09 +0000 http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16616 What a great story - it is so good to see that people can change and grow and that relationships can become more healthy as people are willing to work on it. Thanks for sharing from your heart! What a great story - it is so good to see that people can change and grow and that relationships can become more healthy as people are willing to work on it. Thanks for sharing from your heart!

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]]> By: Summer http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16574 Summer Wed, 11 Jun 2008 00:53:45 +0000 http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16574 How odd that I ran across this post. I don't even know how I got here. I recently discovered that my parents were so verbally abusive, that my siblings and I were so brainwashed into thinking we were evil, we didn't know that THEY were. We just figured we deserved what we got. It was a weird experience this last year to move out of state and slowly realize that life isn't the way I was made to believe it was. It's been a relieving, life-saving discovery. Two things have helped so far. Reading "Bad Childhood; Good Life" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. (Can't stand her radio show, still love her book.) And detoxing. (After failing to elicit a sane conversation from either parent, I've temporarily cut off contact with them. They've tried multiple times to guilt me back into an unhealthy dialogue, but finally I think I've gotten the point across- I need time to figure reality out without their involvement.) I just wanted to say thanks for writing this. You have such a frank, healthy way of dealing with a problematic relationship. It's nice to hear and learn from such an optimistic point of view. How odd that I ran across this post. I don’t even know how I got here. I recently discovered that my parents were so verbally abusive, that my siblings and I were so brainwashed into thinking we were evil, we didn’t know that THEY were. We just figured we deserved what we got.

It was a weird experience this last year to move out of state and slowly realize that life isn’t the way I was made to believe it was. It’s been a relieving, life-saving discovery. Two things have helped so far. Reading “Bad Childhood; Good Life” by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. (Can’t stand her radio show, still love her book.) And detoxing. (After failing to elicit a sane conversation from either parent, I’ve temporarily cut off contact with them. They’ve tried multiple times to guilt me back into an unhealthy dialogue, but finally I think I’ve gotten the point across- I need time to figure reality out without their involvement.)

I just wanted to say thanks for writing this. You have such a frank, healthy way of dealing with a problematic relationship. It’s nice to hear and learn from such an optimistic point of view.

]]> By: Goofball http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16547 Goofball Mon, 09 Jun 2008 20:48:07 +0000 http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16547 that was a beautiful post! Me too I discover each day a bit more that I share characteristics...which I didn't like in my mom when growing up. And now I turn into her as well. But I hope that being aware of some of these things will help me dealing with them differently. And then I'll probably overlook other negative personality aspects that my children will dislike :p that was a beautiful post!

Me too I discover each day a bit more that I share characteristics…which I didn’t like in my mom when growing up. And now I turn into her as well. But I hope that being aware of some of these things will help me dealing with them differently.

And then I’ll probably overlook other negative personality aspects that my children will dislike :p

]]> By: hotmamamia http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16524 hotmamamia Sun, 08 Jun 2008 01:36:59 +0000 http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16524 Although I am post menopausal...this sure did make me feel very PMS emotional...daddy would be proud! Although I am post menopausal…this sure did make me feel very PMS emotional…daddy would be proud!

]]> By: ali http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16503 ali Sat, 07 Jun 2008 04:21:01 +0000 http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16503 That was beautiful. Thank you for sharing. That was beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

]]> By: Karlene http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16502 Karlene Sat, 07 Jun 2008 01:00:13 +0000 http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16502 Great post. Sometimes we fight hardest against those we are most like. Great post. Sometimes we fight hardest against those we are most like.

]]> By: Jo Beaufoix http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16500 Jo Beaufoix Fri, 06 Jun 2008 19:09:52 +0000 http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16500 Hi gorgeous lilacspec. That was fantastic. My relationship with my dad has been difficult at times and I do see traits he has that I have inherited and would rather get rid of. I'm so glad your dad was able to find help and then took the time to look closely at the people he loves and his relationships. Not many people would be strong enough to do that. Brilliant post. Hi gorgeous lilacspec. That was fantastic. My relationship with my dad has been difficult at times and I do see traits he has that I have inherited and would rather get rid of. I’m so glad your dad was able to find help and then took the time to look closely at the people he loves and his relationships. Not many people would be strong enough to do that. Brilliant post.

]]> By: Jen in MI http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16499 Jen in MI Fri, 06 Jun 2008 17:36:58 +0000 http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16499 Wonderful post, Lilac. Very powerful and very loving to your flawed dad. OTOH, I think we're all flawed, so he's probably just like every other loving dad (and mom). Again, strong, powerful post! Wonderful post, Lilac. Very powerful and very loving to your flawed dad. OTOH, I think we’re all flawed, so he’s probably just like every other loving dad (and mom). Again, strong, powerful post!

]]> By: charrette http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16498 charrette Fri, 06 Jun 2008 15:04:05 +0000 http://www.twas-brillig.com/2008/06/06/my-fathers-daughter/#comment-16498 I'm almost embarrassed to say, I have a great dad and a great relationship with him. I took it for granted that nearly everybody grew up that way until I moved away for the first time. What I'm jealous of? Your penchant for order. Please, can I have some? If I were just a little bit more punctual, more OCD... I’m almost embarrassed to say, I have a great dad and a great relationship with him. I took it for granted that nearly everybody grew up that way until I moved away for the first time.

What I’m jealous of? Your penchant for order. Please, can I have some? If I were just a little bit more punctual, more OCD…

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