Jun 03 2008

Big Sister Icons

Published by Brillig at 12:01 am under Guest-Blogging

Please welcome my dear friend and brilliant novelist Annette Lyon as our guest-blogger today!

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I “met” Brilly almost a year ago after clicking over here from another blog, and she immediately became part of my blogroll. I’ve actually met her twice in the flesh. (I KNOW! How totally COOL am I?!) One of Brillig’s posts sparked one of my own, and I believe it was the first one she ever read on my blog (I was giddy at seeing a comment from her). So I thought it fitting to use that post for my guest-blogging stint.

Briefly about me: I’m a wife, a mom of four (my oldest will be a teenager in a couple of months; pray for me), and a writer. And a chocoholic, but that doesn’t make me unique. I love blogging, of course, and writing magazine articles and the like, but my first love is writing fiction. I’ve been lucky enough to have five novels published and a sixth that’ll be released next spring.

Now, without further ado, the post that Brillig herself inspired by recounting her experience becoming a Duran Duran fan at a tender age—all because of her big sister:
Big Sister Icons
I know from personal experience just how powerful an influence an older sister can be. In fact, my being a writer is essentially because of mine.

Mel is about four years my senior, and while I’ve heard her scoff at the idea that she should be held on a pedestal, for most of my childhood, she not only was on one, but I buffed said pedestal daily.

If asked which flavor of ice cream I wanted, I’d have to think, Hmm. What flavor would Mel want? If she was present, I’d take a peek. Pralines and Caramel? Make that two, please.

She was so grown up, and I wanted to be just like her. She took advantage of this.
Such as when, in third grade, she learned the multiplication table and cursive. Ever the vigilant devotee and/or apprentice, I wanted to know what she knew. She enjoyed playing school and recognized an opportunity presenting itself. She took the worksheets her teachers had already corrected, erased her marks, and made me do them.

Keep in mind here: I wasn’t even in kindergarten yet.

Yet Mel was giving me timed tests on the multiplication tables as I curled up with a pencil on the kitchen floor. Then, tongue sticking out of my mouth, I painstakingly tried to write my name in cursive—even though I could barely PRINT it.

But I was learning to be like Mel!

Enjoying our teacher/pupil relationship, Mel moved our “school” to other subjects. She gave me hands-on projects. I remember (and no, I’m not making this up) being assigned the task of creating a shadow box model of the solar system.

Once she pulled a volume of the encyclopedia off the basement bookshelf at random. It fell open to the anatomical drawings of a horse. She promptly informed me that I was to memorize all the muscles.

I did. And I LIKED it.
When I went into my kindergarten pretesting and Mrs. McKay said, “Can you write your name?” I happily complied—in cursive. “Alrighty then,” she said, looking a bit puzzled. “Let’s try that again . . .”
We think my horrendous handwriting is due to the fact that I learned cursive before my motor skills were ready for it. To this day, Mel willingly bears the blame. I’m happy to give it to her instead of, oh, taking responsibility for being too lazy to write cleanly.

But I can thank Mel for getting me into writing because when she was in sixth grade, she had these brown notebooks that she’d scribble stories in. And of course, I thought that was an intensely cool thing to do, so I had to do it too. I wrote stories and had her read them for “feedback.” At the time, I didn’t actually want criticism. I wanted my icon to rave about my wit.

But being as we already had a teacher/pupil relationship, she wanted to mold my writing into Pulitzer material. After all, she WAS in sixth grade. When she told me my story about a sniffing cat wasn’t brilliant (it had too much smelling in it; it wasn’t funny), I was devastated. But I was bound to make her proud and try again.

A couple of years later, she took a hardbound blank book and started writing about personal beauty and makeup. (She was a mature teenager of fourteen at this point and knew about womanly stuff.)

Naturally, I trotted in her footsteps. I purchased a hardbound blank book and wrote what I knew about—big kid stuff. She never finished hers, but I did finish mine. It was called Helpful Hints for Kids.

So in some ways, I can thank Mel for setting my feet on the path of writing. What started out as a little more than copy-catting has become a life-long journey and passion for me.

I’m a big sister too, but my little sister Michelle and I are only two years apart. I attempted to play teacher/pupil, and she rebelled, since instead of seeing me on a pedestal, we were more like peers. We ended up playing bank/post office/grocery store, having eraser wars across our beds, and staying up late at night behind our parents’ backs talking on our purple toy phones that really worked. But that’s for another post.

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17 Responses to “Big Sister Icons”

  1. MommyTimeon 03 Jun 2008 at 5:52 am

    What a great story. I was that big sister — I don’t know about the being looked up to part, but I was the demanding “there is too such a thing as negative numbers” big sister who tried to teach higher math to her kindergarten sister (who eventually went on to be a math whiz, I might add, despite my haphazard teaching efforts). Thanks for the great reminder of those times from a little-sister perspective!

  2. lilacspecson 03 Jun 2008 at 6:23 am

    Fun story! I’m an older sisiter, but I have a brother. He definitely tried to compete with a lot of what I did while we were growing up. I also remember trying to teach him to read and dressing him “cool” when he started junior high. Siblings are such a great thing…well, if they get along I guess.

  3. Dedeeon 03 Jun 2008 at 8:15 am

    I have a gazillion siblings and I land in the batting order second last. One of my older sisters is still my hero. I’ve learned so much from her. My childhood idol, though, was one of my older brothers. That’s a blog post that couldn’t be published, but it needs to be written. Thanks for the inspiration.

  4. Alison Wonderlandon 03 Jun 2008 at 8:40 am

    Big sisters are great aren’t they? I hated mine the whole time we lived together, she’s now one of my best friends. Go figure.

  5. Summeron 03 Jun 2008 at 8:42 am

    I’m the oldest of 5 and had a pretty good relationship with most of my siblings. Though they do tell me I was rather bossy. :)

  6. charretteon 03 Jun 2008 at 9:43 am

    Great post. Fun story. Jogging some awesome memories.

    I was the oldest of five (plus a Navajo foster sister), and — I add with enormous chagrin — an evil, Cinderella-material big sister. (Yet still incessantly imitated by my younger sister, despite her fourth-grade teacher’s warnings NOT to turn out anything like me!) ;-D

  7. canadianflakeon 03 Jun 2008 at 10:05 am

    What a great story. I could imagine you as a little girl sitting there with your tongue stuck out to the side of your mouth trying so hard to write just like her…

    Thanks for sharing!!!

  8. Kateastropheon 03 Jun 2008 at 10:31 am

    Wow I was a bad big sister! Luckily now I’m a good one but hearing all these big sister stories makes me realize how awful I was to mine!

  9. Kimberlyon 03 Jun 2008 at 11:09 am

    Great post Annette! And I’m more than mildly jealous. I’ve only met our dear Brilly-Brill once. I’m off to look up airfares now…

  10. Jo Beaufoixon 03 Jun 2008 at 2:27 pm

    I loved that Annette. My big sister was more like a peer but she did inspire me in lots of ways and still does. I wonder if I can blame my handwriting on her too??

  11. Jen in MIon 03 Jun 2008 at 2:58 pm

    I was the little sister. I think you really captured the sister thing to a tee.

  12. alion 03 Jun 2008 at 3:34 pm

    Aww Ann, that was wonderful!

    I have a big sister - 8 years my senior - and she is still on a pedestal to me. She has no idea, I’m sure, just how much she has inspired me.

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful, endearing story!

  13. Heatheron 03 Jun 2008 at 3:51 pm

    Great memories, Annette. I remember my little sister copy-catting me with everything–even my hairstyle. I’d peek over at her during breakfast and see that she looked almost identical. LOL.

  14. Karleneon 04 Jun 2008 at 8:36 am

    I’m the big sister in my family. I love the braggin rights and the bossing rights, but geez, it puts a lot of pressure on my to “be perfect”–not that my sisters notice or care that I have my own warts and wrinkles. But still…

  15. Jenon 04 Jun 2008 at 2:47 pm

    Oh, this post made me want an older sister! I’m an older sister myself and I don’t think I had this much influance over my little brother though. Thanks for sharing these wonderful memories.

  16. Josion 06 Jun 2008 at 7:43 am

    I remember this one the first time around–it was great to read it again and see a piece of the journey. Very cool.

  17. DUI Lawson 03 Sep 2008 at 6:04 pm

    Great great story. I’m a big brother to a little sister, and I can only hope I’m doing a good enough job giving her somebody to look up to. Not only look up to, but to really admire.

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