Archive for May, 2008

May 30 2008

How to Name a Town: First, Find a Barn…

Published by Brillig under Guest-Blogging

Hey, Brillig here.  Please welcome today’s guest-blogger, a brand new friend of mine, MommyTime of Mommy’s Martini
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* * * * * A little Preamble…
I’d like to thank the lovely and talented Brillig for letting me guest post. I am honored, and I look forward to all the new (to me) voices I’ll be reading here in the next month. What a fun way to meet new writers and readers.

For those of you who don’t know me: I write daily on Mommy’s Martini about things that fascinate me and things that make me laugh. I have two children (Son, age 4, and Daughter, age 2). I am lucky enough to be a professor, which allows me to have the kids in daycare only three days a week. It’s a balancing act I don’t always manage gracefully, trying to get in the rest of the hours for my fulltime job on nights and weekends, keeping everyone in clean socks, and coming up with fun family projects. The blog is my personal time out, a virtual martini for those moments when I need break. My theory is that one should always seize the moment for what is really important: creativity and writing as an outlet, or jumping in puddles with the kids for a laugh, or snuggling quietly with a little one sleeping on my shoulder…all of it is more important than vacuuming. The dirt will always be there tomorrow.
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I live in a Michigan town that was once generally known as “Podunk.” I kid you not. The government website for my town records this fact on its History page, as an introduction to information about the official naming of the town. What the government website does not say is that the 1827 meeting to choose a name took place in the barn of one of the town’s founding citizens, a fact which to me seems poignant and important. These were pioneers, literally, who were looking to establish the legitimacy of their little hamlet. They had no township buildings, no civic location in which to meet, and so they chose the most logical of places: large, roofed in, dry, and associated with the gumption of the very first settlers, the Tibbits’ barn served as their town center. It does not seem a stretch to conclude that the impetus for that meeting was the desire to resist Podunk becoming the recorded name on maps and government documents.

At this meeting, I have also learned, there was much discussion in favor of the name Peking, in honor of the general interest in all things from China. There is, in fact, a town in Michigan called Canton, presumably for the same reason — a reason which, in the 1820s, also inspired the Prince Regent (later King George IV) of England to decorate Brighton Pavilion (his seaside palace) with a crazily “Asian” room in which he placed everything that seemed like it was probably Chinese or Japanese, or whatever, he wasn’t picky, including fantastical wallpaper painted with giant stands of flowering bamboo. I’ve seen it. The pink-and-ivory orchid-like flowers are enormous and lush. Bamboo doesn’t actually flower at all, let alone flower like a Hawaiian orchid, but verisimilitude was not the strong suit of our 1820s forefathers. What they wanted was the fantasy of Chinoiserie. And so, in the case of my town, they — stout settler stock that they were — contemplated the name Peking.

For reasons that are unclear, despite its popularity, Peking was abandoned as the town’s official name in favor of LeRoy. Honestly, I could not make this stuff up if I tried. With a perceptive forward-thinking apparently far beyond that of the eager settlers, the Governor of the Michigan Territory (it was not yet a State), chose to approve instead the second choice name that the settlers put forth. It was a name I am sure they felt was no where near as romantic and lilting as LeRoy. At least, I assume they felt that about LeRoy. To me, that name is practically synonymous with “junk yard dog,” but presumably in this pre-rock-and-roll era, it sounded exotic. Or something. Anyway, thanks to Governor Cass’s eminently sensible judgment, I live in a town with a perfectly ordinary name, one that the Puritan settlers of New England happily bestowed upon many towns — a name like Portsmouth, or Salem, or Haverford.

I’m sure at this remove of time, it would not matter if I lived in Peking, Michigan instead. It would not be any different than living in Versailles, Vermont (pronounced VER-sails, with a nice hard “r” in there). Which is to say, I would still be a Michigander, and the name of the town would have no particular resonance, no specific connotations, except to occasion a wondering query, “What were they thinking?”

But I do wonder, now that I know this history, what life would have been like for those early settlers if Peking had carried the day. Would they have felt more worldly? Held themselves a little straighter when they announced with pride the name of their town? Felt secretly pleased that they had taken the public step of labeling their town as different from those already-old towns of New England? Would they have felt particularly modern to live in a town called Peking in the Territory of Michigan? Even though they would never travel to China themselves, would probably never meet a Chinese person, quite possibly never even speak to a soul who had been to China, would they have felt proud that they were doing their part to enter into the increasingly global economy, to participate in becoming world citizens, by naming their town after one halfway around the world?

A part of me thinks they would have. And admires them for it. In 1827, still ten years away from becoming the 26th state, Michigan was wilderness and farmland. Settlers worked long hours carving farms out of the fertile soil. Tibbits is credited with bringing the first pony to the area. Say what you will about the problematic dynamics between settlers and Native Americans (what you say will be true); life in such a place was certainly not easy for the new settlers.

Perhaps the fantasy of China, the dream of the exotic, glimmered in those settlers’ minds for a while on that February night in 1827. Perhaps they, with their work-worn hands and woolen clothes, stomped their thick boots to keep warm as they discussed the choice of a town name and quietly hoped to grasp what little they could of the reported glories of travel.

In the end, they chose a name less explicitly foreign (LeRoy) and, as one might argue is endemic of Midwestern farmers, offered up a second choice that was incredibly safe. The Governor, of course, preferred the latter. But like the questioning speaker in Robert Frost’s “The Road Less Traveled,” I wonder what would have happened in the formative years of my town if boldness had prevailed. And I am pleased to be reminded again that however much we twenty-first century citizens see ourselves as responsible for the phenomenon of the “global village,” that shrinkage was already beginning nearly 200 years ago through the hard work and gleams of vision that filled the lives of people like those who lived in a place that was nearly named Peking, Michigan.

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May 29 2008

These Are the Soundtracks of Our Lives

Published by Brillig under Guest-Blogging

Hey, everyone!  Brillig here.  Welcome to our guest-blogging-ness!  I’m so excited to have my friends, both old and new, both “real life” and “online,” posting here at my place while I try to get my head screwed back on.  Guest-blogs will be posted in the order that people signed up in (if you offered to guest-post and you did NOT receive an email from me, PLEASE let me know!) and with that I’m excited to welcome our first guest-blogger, my dear Kate—my best friend of more than a decade and the girl who got me into blogging in the first place.  And wouldn’t you just know it, but Kate has chosen to post about my very favorite topic—ME!  Hahaha.  And so, without further ado….

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Hello there, Brilligites.  I’m sure most of you have heard of me before, being that I’m totally awesome AND Brillig’s real life BFF.  If you haven’t, allow me to introduce myself.  I’m Kate from Walking Kateastrophe . . . and you all have me to thank for the blogger that is Brillig.  Haha.  Told you I was awesome.

You learn a lot about a person over the course of fourteen years as best friends.  You learn about their favorite foods1 , their hated foods2, their sleeping habits3, their favorite snacks4, their favorite movies5, favorite TV shows6, their taste in men7, and most especially their favorite music.

Brillig is obsessed with music in a way I have rarely seen amongst mere mortals.  My first trip to her bedroom left me speechless (SPEECHLESS I tell you) at her vast collection of vinyl records.  She knows almost every piece of music from Wagner to Enrique Iglesias to The Offspring.  She has EVERY SINGLE WORD of EVERY SINGLE Duran Duran song completely memorized.  Oh, and she is an amazing opera singer as well as being able to sing tenor.  You heard me.  TENOR. 

Music and Brillig go hand in hand.  She used to spend HOURS and HOURS making me summer mix tapes to get us through our long summers apart in high school (we both traveled with our families during the summer so we were always apart).  I know I have those tapes somewhere, and I should really pull them out and preserve the amazing mixes.  They got me through some tough times and some great times. 

SO, what I thought I’d do, for fun, is give you a list of songs that remind me of Brillig.  And maybe a little description of why or how they remind me of Brillig . . . because I can!  This list could be ten miles long, but I’m just going to hit the (in my opinion) top ten high points in no particular order, except maybe the last two, which I think are the best.

  • Ding Dong the Witch is Dead (Wizard of Oz):  Our friendship was forged during a high school performance of The Wizard of Oz in which Brillig was the Wicked Witch of the West.  I was Aunt Em . . . we had fun.  Probably a little too much fun.
  • Copacabana (Barry Manilow):  When we were roomies, we had a Beta.  Her name was Lola.  She was a showfish. We later learned all pretty Betas are male, so we then had a transvestite showfish named Lola.  Good times.
  • You Surround Me (Erasure):  Not necessarily Erasure’s best known song in the US, but ha-cha-cha it’s a fun listen!!   Brillig can sing even the lowest notes.  It’s very sexy (both the song and her singing bass).
  • And So It Goes (Billy Joel):  Brillig sang this song in high school choir her senior year and we both fell madly in love with it because of the message about loving after being hurt.  We were both pissed when Carmen slaughtered it on American Idol Season 2’s “Billy Joel Night” (and both predicted she’d pick it) but continue to love it.  The King’s Singers version might be our favorite.
  • Der Holle Rache (Die Zauberflote, Mozart): It’s Brillig we’re talking about here, so I can’t say “Queen of the Night Aria from The Magic Flute by Mozart.”  I have to go all German on you.  She gets a little snobby about her Mozart being in German.   Pretty much ANYTHING Mozart reminds me of Brill, but especially Die Zauberflote and the movie Amadeus.  In the movie, where they put this song is one of my favorite parts, therefore you put together the movie, the music and the composer and they all point the way toward Brillig.
  • Sowing the Seeds of Love (Tears for Fears):  We’d sit on the two beds in her bedroom, listening to this song.  We’d imitate the trumpet in the bridge, we’d dance and laugh and sing along and then collapse, exhausted.  I think it’s one of my favorite memories with Brilly.
  • Pure (Lightening Seeds):  I never ever skip over this song when it pops up on my iPod.  It reminds me of a spring break trip we took to California, laying by the pool, stupidly wishing we were skinnier.  Brillig created harmonies for the chorus and we’d play the song on repeat, singing at the tops of our lungs.
  • Only You (Yaz):  I once listed this as a song I never skip, and I still don’t.  Neither does Brillig, I do believe.  We both love the Enrique version (both the all Spanish AND half-Spanish versions) and BOTH Yaz versions.  I am of the strong opinion that this song is not long enough.
  • Ordinary World (Duran Duran):  Brillig sites this as ““the pinnacle of modern music”” and I tend to agree with her.  Duran Duran will forever remind me of Brillig and make me love her even more.
  • Needs (Collective Soul):  If you haven’t heard this song, you MUST listen.  It’s amazing.  Let me give you a sampling of the lyrics to prove it to you:
    All around me I see what weakness has made
    Too much tomorrow I think I’ll take all today

    I don’t need nobody
    I don’t need the weight of words to find a way
    To crash on through
    I don’t need nobody
    I just need to learn the depth
    Or doubt of faith to fall into

    In this time of substitute
    It’s my needs I’ve answered to (All the while)
    And the hope that I invest
    Still turns to signals of distress (All the while)

    So he spends the whole song claiming he doesn’t need anyone or anything . . . and then, he gets it.  He realizes the truth, and the music swells and the climax of the song makes it even more amazing:

    You’re all I need
    When the water runs deep
    You’re all I need
    Now I cry my soul to sleep
    You’re all I need

    Seriously, it’s so amazing.  Did I say that already?  Hmm, let me repeat.  AMAZING.  And also where I’m going to end this list because I think it’s one of the very best.

I could literally go on for months here.  There are SO MANY MORE!  Elvis, The Beatles, Depeche Mode, The Offspring (‘cause she’s pretty fly, for a white guy) . . .  If you don’t have these songs, you should.  If you do have them, you should give them another listen and just revel in their awesomeness.

This list is mostly made up of eighties songs because I’m pretty sure Brillig feels she was born about a decade late when it comes to music.  For the record, she is also pretty up to date with current music, witnessed by the fact that her son (and probably all of her children) can sing every word of every All American Rejects song, and I’m sure can still kick my butt at any pop music trivia game anyone could throw our way.  I’m sure she can also sing every Wiggles song, because she’s a rad Mom like that.

Like sands in an hourglass, these are the soundtracks of our life as best friends and I fully plan on continuing to add songs for decades to come.

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May 27 2008

The Insanity Continues…

Published by Brillig under Blogginess

So, remember how I was in the process of buying a house in Colorado?  Yeah…  The house has been considered under contract for over three weeks now.  We are dealing with the worst seller EVER.  Who is that seller?  Why, it’s the US Federal Government.  We had an agreement, we were moving forward.  Suddenly, they are trying to get out of it.  Yeah.  I’ve been waiting around for three weeks for the green light to go ahead and actually move in, and now they’re trying to get out of it.  It’s the most ridiculous situation in the whole world.  My brother—the one in Denver who my hubby is living with while we wait to have our own place—is a partner in a hoity-toity law firm.  He has been giving us legal advice and it’s looking like we may end up embroiled in a legal battle over this house—which is precisely what I was hoping to do with all my free time this summer…

Which means, among other madness, that I could be stranded here in Utah indefinitely while my husband is in Colorado.

“Shoot me now” is the phrase that comes to mind…

Also… there’s a leak in the basement.  Like, the kind of leak that caused the ceiling in the closet of my boys’ bedroom to collapse.  The kind of leak that has been saturating insulation and drywall for long enough that the smell of mold is enough to kill.  The kind of leak that I know nothing about fixing and will therefore have to call a plumber who will rob me blind.  The kind of leak that may just be the straw that breaks my camel-ish back.

My kids are all out of school now, which in many ways makes things easier.  It also means, however, that I have four children at home all day every day.  I adore them and they’re so much fun, but it’s hard to get much done!

Oh, and I’m sick.  It’s my fault, really.  I dragged my kids, my husband, and my sister to Lagoon yesterday.  I love Lagoon—I love amusement parks in general.  But it was pouring rain all day long.  Now, we all had our little $1 plastic ponchos and that helped a lot to keep us dry, but we were freezing.  I looked at my little children who were shaking and shivering, drenched, with little purple lips and frozen fingers, and thought, “wow, they’re all going to be sick.”  But no, I’m the one who’s sick.  Fever, chills, sore throat.  My kids, however, are bouncing off the walls…

In the above whiny paragraph, I mentioned that my husband was here.  Yes!  He flew in on Friday night and flew out this morning at 3:00 a.m.!  I can’t even tell you how wonderful it was to be with him.  We’d been apart for three weeks, which I realize isn’t all that long, but to us it was an eternity.  We had such a great weekend together, which made it that much harder to let him go this morning, especially since we have no idea when we might see each other again.  Sigh.  I just adore that man.

Let me be clear, though, that with all the whining that I’ve done in this post so far, I’m actually doing remarkably well.  Why?  How?  Well, I have the best friends and neighbors a girl could have.  People keep bringing in food for us or taking my kids for a few hours.  Not a day goes by that I don’t have half a dozen phone calls from well-wishers, wondering how they can make my burden a little bit lighter.  I’m spoiled rotten, that’s what I am!

And I’m also spoiled by all of you.  In my last post, I mentioned that I hate that I’m not blogging much lately, and would anyone be willing to guest-blog for me?  The response was amazing.  Twenty of you volunteered to help me out and keep my blog from dying!  WOW!  This will be so much fun!  If you are among those who offered to guest-post, then you’ll be receiving an email from me soon about when and how.

So, really, the insanity continues and there appears to be no end in sight.  But it’s all good, thanks to my friends—both the real and the online kind (who, by the way, are very real).

And now, I’m going to go lock everyone in the basement, throw some raw meat at them (because I’m kind-hearted like that), and take a nap.

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May 22 2008

Bringing Twas Brillig Back From The Dead

Published by Brillig under Blogginess

Okay, people. I’m OBVIOUSLY having a very hard time blogging these days. And it’s sadly quiet around here. And I miss you. So I’ve decided to do something that only big-name bloggers (who I, unfortunately, am not) do. Yup, that’s right. I’m a wannabe (and all the girlies say I’m pretty fly for a white guy). But I thought it would be fun to have guest bloggers.

So, if you wanna blog here on my blog, please let me know. I’d absolutely love it. The rules are super lenient— you can write about whatever you want to (with a few exceptions… like, nothing that starts out with “Why I Hate Mormons” or, really, why you hate anyone) and nothing with profanity or vulgarity. If you use naughty words, I WILL substitute them with something else… which could be kinda funny. I’m just giving you advanced warning.

Also, your post can be something cross-posted from your blog, or it can be something from your archives, or it can be completely original for the occasion. See? I’m SO easy-going. :-D

I figure this would be good for all of us. I’ll be happy, because my blog won’t be sitting here dead. You’ll be happy, because your post will link back to your blog (if you have one) and you will probably meet some fun new readers (seriously, my readers are the coolest). Basically, everyone wins.

I don’t know how long we’ll do this—it depends on how many people want to guest-blog, and it depends on how long it takes for me to actually GET OUT OF LIMBO!

So! If you’re interested, lemme know!

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***ETA:  We’ve reached our guest-blog capacity!  Thanks to all who volunteered! 

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May 15 2008

Now Am I Dead? Now Am I Fled?

Published by Brillig under Blogginess

(Bonus points for anyone who knows where this post’s title comes from.)

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Shall I compare me to a frazzled mom?

I am more sleepy, and delirious.

Rough spills do mess up kitchens clean and fair,

And carpets here are far more vomitous.*

Sometimes too hot the voice of mother speaks,

And often are good children scared to death.

As sometimes mother yells more than she should,

By fluke, or mother’s full exhaustion’s wealth.**

And my eternal packing shall not cease,

Nor lose possession of the junk I claim,

Nor shall the toilet clean pee off itself

When little boys forget just how to aim.

So long as I wade through my duties deep,

So long lives limbo, I shall never sleep***

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*We had a puking incident today, just after I finished cleaning all the carpets…

**Or possibly because my kids are big fat (but adorable, natch) stinkers

***Yup, still in limbo, with no official end in sight just yet.

 

(Did you notice that the whole thing is in full sonnet form: 14 lines, in iambic pentameter, rhyming, AND ending in a couplet? Yeah… I felt like I needed to point that out…)

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May 05 2008

Ready, Aim…

Published by Brillig under Blogginess

I’m just waiting for someone to yell, “fire.” I’m ready, my aim is set. The limbo between “aim” and “fire” seems interminable.

I’m pattering around my quiet abode tonight all by myself. Four little darlings lie sleeping in their little beds—they’re so beautiful when they sleep, their long dark eyelashes splashed across their creamy pink faces. Everything is so quiet, so still. So perfectly right.

Brian is five hundred miles away tonight, and will be for a few weeks. It’s only been one day—hardly long enough to even notice that he’s gone. But I feel the distance acutely. I miss him.

He saw our house tonight. Our offer was accepted. I’m already contemplating the placement of our paintings and mirrors and photographs. Which child gets which bedroom. Which tables go where. Which couches I’d really like to give to charity because I don’t think I can stand to look at them anymore… In my mind, I’m decorating a house I’ve never actually seen in person. And yet, I consider it home.

Isaac was diagnosed this last week. No surprises. I’d been calling him “autistic” for a while now. But it’s official now. The psychiatrist who diagnosed him told me that he usually makes moms cry when he issues such a diagnosis. I assured him that I’d already done my crying. “But now I feel empowered,” I told him. “I can finally start getting him some help now.”

Not that I think there will be no more tears. I’m realistic enough to understand that this is going to be a lifelong journey, with ups and downs, tears and laughter and sometimes both combined. Usually both combined.

I’m beginning to look at our stuff. Our junk. Our ridiculous piles of “necessities.” I suppose I get peevish like this every time I move. I’m now looking at our possessions in terms of, “if I pack that now, will I need it before I actually move?” And the answer is almost always no. Goodness, if I’m not going to need it in the next few weeks, do I really need it at all? And yet, into the box it goes.

My gal-pal Charrette (have you checked out her new blog? You must!) and I were laughing about that yesterday at church. Come to think of it, Charrette and I were as irreverent as the children we work with in the Primary—snickering and chattering while someone else was teaching the lesson. Whoops. I’m sure the teacher really loved us yesterday. Anyway, the teacher was telling the story of Lehi to the Primary children. Lehi, Sariah, and family were commanded to leave Jerusalem and to leave all their possessions behind. “Lucky Sariah,” I whispered to Charrette, who readily agreed.

Not that Sariah was lucky. But I DO wonder if, since her plate was so very full and so very much was being asked of her, if God was truly blessing her by telling her she didn’t have to deal with all the stuff.

So, I’m packing, but I’m leaving out some clothes for everyone. Some pants, some t-shirts, and something to wear to church on Sunday. Princess Fluffy’s school uniforms are all left out, because she might as well get as much use out of them now. (When we get to Colorado, she and Bubba will enter that delightful world of… um… public school. Oh, it’ll be fine. But I’ll miss the strict uniforms we’ve had here.) Anyway, if somehow we end up staying here in limbo for longer than we expect, then we’ll each end up wearing the same outfits to church week after week. Isn’t it stupid that that bothers me? For all my talk of disgust with my possessions and my desires to just throw it all in the garbage, the truth is that I can’t bear to part with any of it. In fact, I went to the mall tonight and bought myself yet another new skirt and pair of shoes. Ludicrous.

There’s so much more to say on all of this, but really I’m just rambling. Filling the silence. Missing my sweety. Contemplating my life and the many new twists it’s suddenly taken. I suppose it’s easier to harp on tangible things like possessions than to actually figure out my new reality. Maybe that’s why I bought yet another skirt and pair of shoes…

Come on. Fire, already.

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May 04 2008

Soapy Links

Published by Brillig under Blogginess

Hey, y’all. Here’s your SOS Mr. Linky for this week. I hope to play at some point today too!

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